Updated regularly. Content from the Positive Coaches Alliance
"Try using a criticism sandwich when you need to deliver constructive instruction- the bread slices on each end are truthful, specific positives and the criticism in the middle is contructive and instructional."
"Tell your players that you want them to work hard to become great players and a great team. Tell them you are making the same commitment: to work as hard you can to become a great coach. Then do it."
"Seize teachable moments. Use examples from pro or college sports to illustrate your points both about effort and sportsmanship"
"When speaking to a small, young athlete bend from the waist or better yet, get down on one knee so you can see eye to eye....figuratively and literally"
"Create trigger words that become part of the team's vocabulary. In the heat of competition when there isn't time to go into detail, trigger words can communicate broader ideas. For instance "elbow" can mean to keep your elbow up when you swing; "gooseneck" conveys correct free throw shooting form; "four" says we will win the 4th quarter because of our physical conditioning and mental toughness"
"Give your athletes a chance to officiate at practice to learn how hard the job of the official can be. Once they've experienced oficiating, your athletes are more likely to respect officials in game situations who might miss a call"
"Lead by example. When your players and their parents see you keep your temper in check, for example, when an official misses a call, they are more likely to check their own tempers"
"Have conversations with each player about his or her personal goals for the season. Don't discourage what seem like overly ambitous goals. Instead, help the player refine the goals. Together, identify the steps to take (and daily commitments) to work toward achieving the goals. When players buy into the goals, they will be more motivated to achieve them"
"Practice your self-control routine. Next time you're driving and someone cuts you off, remind yourself to take at least three deep breaths. You can also try it when you're watching your favorite sports team on TV. Once you've practiced your self-control routine, it should come naturally when you need it on the sideline"
"Create rewards other than MVP to reward what you value. Try selecting the Most Valuable Teammate, or giving hustle awards. Involve your players in choosing the award winner"
"Use signature statements such as "practice like a champion" or "the fourth quarter is ours" to help establish and reinforce your team culture"
"Follow the three C's: have set consequences that are applied calmly and consistently. A coach becoming negative or getting visibly angry wtih players should be viewed as a sign of weakness and a lack of self-discipline"